INFIDELITY- The Best worst thing that could Happen to your Marriage

                   1- Introduction to Infidelity
                   2- What Infidelity Means
                   3- Causes of Infidelity
                   4- Efects of Infidelity
                   5- How to overcome Infidelity



                       Introduction to Infidelity
                     

Infidelity is perhaps the most complex issued faced by the spouses in the marital relationship. Usually when discovering of an affair is done, it can be very annoying for the person on the receiving end of the case. This results in a lot of pain, confusion and emotional problems for people that are involved in such relation.

This can affect the such relation. This can affect the person and make him very depressed and even become suicidal.

What Infidelity Means

Infidelity is the act or fact of having a romantic or sexual relationship with someone other than one's wife or partner.

Infidelity occurs when a person who is married or on a long-term relationship has sex with another partner. Infidelity is commonly interpreted as close to the greatest tragedy that could befall Any relationship  and as the natural, unavoidable introduction to the break up of a union.

It is is viewed in such dark terms because , under the philosophy of Romanticism which has  overwhelming our understanding of love since the middle of the eighteenth century , sex is understood to be, not principally a physical act, but the summation and central symbol of love.

Before Romanticism, people had sex and fell in love but they did not always see these two acts as inextricably linked:

"One might love someone and not sleep with them or sleep with them and not love them".

It was this commotion that Romanticism refused to countenance. Sex was simply the crowning moment of Love, the superlative way of expressing one's devotion to someone, the ultimate proof of one's sincerity.

Causes of Infidelity

Why do people cheat? What would make someone want to deviate from their marriage and seek comfort in another person? There are a number of answers to these questions, which we will discuss below:

1- Feeling Like the relationship is one sided.

One of the biggest problems that couples face shortly before Infidelity is the feeling of imbalance in the relationship. One-sided relationship in many different forms:

One spouse feels underappreciated and undervalued, the other spouse feels more financial pressure than the others, etc. As long as one person in the relationship feels like he or she is pulling more weight than the other person, it's One sided.

When a person is weighed down by the pressures of  a relationship, he or she may seek out relief in another person's companionship. In other words, if your spouse feels like he or she is not getting enough attention from you, he or she may look it elsewhere.

2- A lack of communication

Communication is one of the most Fundamental component of a successful relationship. If you cannot talk to your spouse and listen to what he or she has to say, you will have a hard time in your marriage. This is a particular time for people who cheat.

3- An unsatisfying sex life.

Unfortunately, many people cheat because they are not satisfied with their sex lives at home. This doesn't just apply to men, members of both genders can stray from their marriages because of unfulfilled sexual desires.

4- An unfulfilled sex drive

You've probably heard this excuse before. "My sex drive is too high for one person to handle". This is mosy common to men, but women can have high sexual drives also. If there are in fact issues with sexual satisfaction in your Marriage, correcting those issues may help you avoid the cause of infidelity together.

5- Revenge for past infidelity

Believe it or not, some people choose to cheat on thier spouses because they have been cheated on before. If the non-cheater is unable to forgive the cheater for his or her actions, he or she may look for Revenge affair.

This is a disorderly cycle that causes far more pain than comfort, but it is one of the most common causes of infidelity.

Effects of Infidelity

  Infidelity is one of the main causes of serious upsets to family bliss and thus its effect to the family are countless.

The effects are also so immense that they can, possibly, ruin the family completely. When one partner in a marriage learns of his or her partner's unfaithfulness, this may completely crush her emotions that  he or she cannot continue relating normally with his or her spouse. There are even in the cases that people go to the extent of killing their spouses after learning of their infidelity. Infidelity might also lead to divorce.

How To Overcome Infidelity

Can couple overcome infidelity? The short answer is yes. Couples can overcome infidelity if there is a shared desire to do so.

In making a genuine attempt to overcome cheating in a relationship, there are three factors to consider regarding the aspects of infidelity:

Identifying, Understand, and Resolving.

First, it is important to take an honest approach to identifying the reasons why infidelity occured in the first place.

The next step is to make serious attempt to understand the conditions that may have cultivated an opportunity for the affair. After identifying the whys and the reasons, each member of the relationship must be willing to understand what role, if any, each had in this specific development in their relationship, if required, to take ownership.

The next is to return to normal and figure each other , this can be done via counseling,seminars or relationship retreats. In identifying the reasons why infidelity occured, making changes and extablishing new norms may prove to be a solid part to Resolution.

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